Why women cheat

 7 REASONS WHY MARRIED WOMEN CHEAT

Marriage is a legal agreement of lifetime commitment. It is seen as a sacred union-made by God but in recent times, a lot of marriages had hit the rock due to the issue of infidelity. This issue was mostly found in men but now 46% of women are guilty of cheating in their marriages.  A little wonder why this is? Here are 7 reasons why married women cheat on their partners. 

1. Lack of closeness and communication with their spouse:  The importance of communication and closeness in every relationship can not be overemphasized. The inability of a woman to communicate her sexual needs to her partner so that they can be attended to can make a woman feel unsatisfied in a relationship thus pushing her to get her satisfaction elsewhere. Also, stubbornness and selfishness on the part of both partners can make communication impossible thus making them drift farther and farther apart. In situations like this, some women can't stand being alone. The need for the closeness of another loving human being therefore can drive her to immerse in the pleasure of sex with another male symbol.

2. For the thrill of a new love affair:  Most women can't stand the stage in a marriage where all the crazy feeling of love towards their partner suddenly disappears and their partners do not appeal to them as when they started. In the bid to keep experiencing new excitement they tend to get themselves a regular part-time lover who becomes ensnared or almost a slave to their bidding. 

3. To satisfy the huge sexual appetite that was created in their "singlehood": Some women cheat because they still want to receive the kind of erotic adrenaline from the precariousness of their sexual adventures without getting caught or creating a crisis in their marriages.

4: To boost her low self-esteem: If a woman grows up feeling ugly, unloved, and unwanted, when she finally found that she is indeed very desirable as a sex object, she tends to become a slave to erotic admiration. Being deprived of love and warmth and understanding for so long, she may consider promiscuous sex relations outside marriage a blessing. 

5. Lack of attention from Partner: Most women crave attention and when denied, they sort for it elsewhere even though it is in the arms of another man.

6. For a better quality, not variety: Some women tend to fall for men who attend and appeal to their needs than their partners. They love men who pay attention to them, have, and look good and tidy.

7. To get their economic needs met: Some selfish women used economic needs as an excuse to cheat on their husbands. They quietly blamed him for not making enough money to cater to her needs. They may encourage an attitude or desire to take what they could from people emotionally, sexually, and financially.

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 WHO IS THE GREATEST?

A short story by Glory Nyanah

Have you ever wondered how the earth experience a solar eclipse? Well! Let me share a story with you. Are you ready?

The sun and moon arguing 

Once upon a time, the sun and the moon fought to know who was more important than the other.

"I am the greatest. Nothing is more important than I on Earth." The sun began, "Without my heat and light, the Earth would be a lifeless ball of ice-coated rock. I warm  the seas,  the atmosphere, generate the weather patterns, and give energy to the growing green plants that provide the food and oxygen for life on Earth."

"Oh no, I am the greatest." The moon countered. "The brightest and largest object in our night sky, I make the earth a more livable planet by moderating its planet and allowing it wobbled on its axis, leading to a relatively stable climate. I also cause tides, create a rhythm that has guided humans for thousands of years."

"I am the greatest" screamed the sun. 😀🙏

"No, I am the greatest" the moon screamed back. Soon both of them were at each other's neck until the Sun was partially covered by the Moon, causing the earth to experience slight darkness.

After some time the Sun becomes completely hidden behind the Moon forcing the sky to noticeably darken,  flowers closed up, chickens went to roost, animals and humans became disoriented. Everything went still. This fight continued for days, then the two decided to take the matter to the chief of nature and his counsel for no one was able to separate them. Immediately they arrived at the palace they were given the floor to air their points.

"My lordship and honorable members of the royal council," the sun greeted, " everyone here knows how useful and important I am to the earth, I provide light, bring heat, and help plants grow, I give the earth its warmth. Without me, the earth will be lifeless and void.  I appear when the earth is all hustling and bustling. Doesn't this makes me greater than the moon who only appears at night when all is cool and calm?" 

"That's not true, I the moon am the earth's most constant companion and the easiest celestial object to find in the night sky, I stay awake when all fell asleep watching the earth, without me the night is dark and dreadful" 

The chief and his councils listened to both arguments attentively. Then the king ordered the two elements to step out so that he and his council members can deliberate on the matter.

"My wise elders what do you think we should do about this," the chief asked.

" I think that the sun is right, we all know how hard she has to work throughout the day to make sure we have a light, she stays there watching patiently as we go about our daily hustle. She gives energy to our plants to grow. It must be hard for her. To me, she is the greatest." The first elder said.

First elder

" I think it's the moon. She has been there for us when the sun hides its face. It stays awake to keep us company. It makes our night lively. It also helps us keep track of our festivals. I think she wins"  Another elder countered. Soon there were agreements on who should win and who shouldn't among the council members 

Second elder

The chief paid close attention to the points raised by members of his council, then thank them for their contributions. " I now have my judgment. Bring the two women in for my judgment" the wise chief said. The sun and the moon were ushered into the palace by the royal guards.

The chief

" Having listened attentively to both of you and my counsel of chiefs, I have concluded that the earth needs the sun as well as they need the moon. It needs the sun in the day the same way it needs the moon in the night. The sun can not do what the moon does at night neither can the moon do what the sun does by day. Each of you is unique in her way,  none of the two is more important or greater than the other. So hence both the sun and moon will learn to respect each other's uniqueness and co-exist, and there will be no arguments or fights between you two concerning this issue again. Have I made myself clear?"

" yes, my lordship"  the sun and moon answered simultaneously, then bowed before the chief and his council and left. 

From then hence the sun and the moon had learned to coexist peacefully. They both appreciate each other's uniqueness and never argue about who is the greatest between them. Whenever they meet it now becomes a friendly meeting which caused a solar eclipse on the earth. 

THE END

ABOUT ME

 Hy everyone!

🤶 My name is Glory Nyanah.👉 I am a graduate of English and Literary studies.
👉I grew up in a family of five; four girls and a boy❤. 👉Am a lover of interesting books and movies👻. 👉I am a story teller. I use words to paint mental pictures🌉 and teach morals. I have zero tolerance for fake and manipulative people👿. 👉I am fun loving🤸‍♂️👯🕺. I DREAD BOREDOM. 👉My favorite food is Ekpang Nkukwo( an Akwa Ibom 

delicacy)☺. 👉My favorite people are my family and friends👪👫👭. I love learning new things, traveling, and meeting new people💑. 👉 Most important of all, I love God and do all to represent him here on earth👼. 

The value of Patriotism In creating a nigeria of our dreams.

  THE VALUE OF PATRIOTISM IN CREATING THE NIGERIA OF OUR DREAMS

BY Glory Nyanah

Barack Obama once said that "Our responsibility as citizens is to address the inequalities and injustices that linger, and we must secure our birthright freedoms for all people." Nigeria is a nation with over 371 tribes spread across the 36 States in the nation with differences in dressing, food, customs, norms, and values. It is a country known for its abundance of natural resources spread all over its regions. Northern Nigeria for instance has sizable agricultural products. Southern Nigeria is bestowed with oil and gas, salt, coal, iron ore, and many more. The West has gold, bitumen, coal, lead, limestone, and iron zinc. The East is blessed with coal, oil shale, gas, glass sands, ironstone, clay minerals, limestone, gypsum, and alum. One with think that with all these numerous natural resources and richness embedded in the nation, the county will be the most significant trade market in history or have a lessened poverty rate. Contrary to this thought, according to the World Poverty Clock, Nigeria has overtaken India as the country with the most people living in extreme poverty. Records have it that nearly 90 million Nigerians are living in extreme poverty. Throughout its history,  Nigeria has experienced much ethnic group conflict than it has experienced unity and peace. And its level of insecurity is being heightened by the day.  The insecurity situation in the country was alleged to have been attributed to some factors. Among these include poor government policies, corruption, poverty, unemployment, poor leadership, weak judiciary system, etc. Consequently, this affected the region economically, socially, politically, etc. The value of patriotism in creating a Nigeria of our dreams cannot, therefore, be overemphasized, it brings national pride and identity, provides a sense of oneness, and gives a feeling of love, devotion, and a sense of attachment to every citizen of a country. 

According to Tom W. Smith, "National identity is the cohesive force that both holds nation-states together and shapes their relationships with other states. National pride is the positive effect that the public feels towards their country, resulting from their national identity. It is both the pride or sense of esteem that a person has for one’s nation and the pride or self-esteem that a person derives from one’s national identity."  The story of Nigeria for the past 50 years seems to be characterized by a great deal of mutual distrust and suspicion between the various groups, each competing for an economic position and relevance in the country. Before now the level of our patriotism as a country was once seen in the trend of display of our flags in vehicles, enthusiastic cheering, and appreciation on anything Nigerian. But that feeling of pride is rare to find today, as citizens no longer appreciate things that pertain to the country. An instance can be seen in the current efforts put into rebranding campaigns to show the positive sides of Nigeria and efforts to get people to buy Made in Nigeria products. These efforts do not only yield any results but also provide the country's intrepid stand-up comedians with something to poke fun at. There is therefore great a need to revive the national pride of the country in the heart of citizens because research had shown that feeling good about one's country gives a sense of esteem for one's nation and pride in one's national identity and these go a long way to bringing to light a nation we all dream of. 

Furthermore, patriotism brings a sense of oneness among citizens of a nation; a feeling of belonging. Looking back at the country the early elites fought vehemently for, one will see that Nigeria is not growing into what it was supposed to be. The elite who vehemently fought against the colonial incursions and exploitation of the country's resources and human capital did that to have a country void of exploitation, discrimination, corruption, crimes, and manipulation; a country that protects its citizens' rights and resources; a country built on peace, unity, and progress; a country where formal and informal education is accessible to every citizen; a democratic nation where the supreme power is vested in the people to vote their leaders and have the freedom to speak against wrong leadership. The elites and early nationalists fought for everything that made Nigeria the giant of Africa. Everything that birthed one Nigeria. Today, however, Nigeria has become the opposite of what was fought for. Resources that could pay for public services or be directed towards investment are being misappropriated. Insecurities and ethnic conflicts rooted in poverty and economic competition have become the order of the day and even though the country is known as the leading oil producer in Africa, few Nigerian citizens have benefited from the trade. All these and more have made Nigeria become a country where citizens no longer care about the 'labor of our heroes, and the 'giant' that was fought for had been reduced to an '-ant' in their heart. And this lack of oneness and unity has greatly affected the progress of the nation. 

Another value of patriotism is that it gives a feeling of love, devotion, and a sense of attachment to one's country. It is what motivates a citizen to be actively involved in all activities that build and develop his/ her nation. This love is demonstrated by being part of the political process, studying the history of the country, focusing on current events in the country, reading stories, tall tales, and patriotic legends of the country, flagging the nation's color, respecting the country symbols, observing and celebrating national holidays.  It was this level of love and attachment, that made the early nationalists and elites willing to sacrifice their good—including their lives—for the protection of the common liberty of the nation.

Conclusively, with the prevailing harsh economic situation in the country, conscious steps need to be taken to build the nation of our dreams; one nation bound in freedom, peace, and unity. There is therefore a great need to emphasize the importance of patriotism among citizens of the country.  Jill Denison, an American writer, and Chief Innovation Strategist said that patriotism means, " supporting the value outlined in the constitution, helping to ensure that everybody -regardless of gender, race, ethnicity, religion-has the opportunity to enjoy the democratic freedoms of our nation. ...working not just for oneself, but for the good of all. Understanding that equity means everyone, not just a chosen few".

Everyone needs to be constantly vigilant and concerned about the direction our country is heading in and whether the direction is the right one that makes the country a better place. Nigeria is still a work in progress. And to make it a nation we all will be proud of, we all need to be involved in honoring the principles upon which our nation was built.